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Many people don’t know anything about standing. So they will refute it using scripture all types of scripture to discourage the stander out of their calling. This is why you need to know what God is saying for yourself. When God calls a stander to stand it doesn’t make sense to religious folk. I have seen many share my recent post and saw a mix of emotions from people in their comment section. Saying God would never call you to do that!!! But it’s all a lie. I remember feeling the same way years ago and God called me to stand for my marriage. Everyone was telling me to let it go. I remember being invited to church with a good friend. The pastor spoke God says He has heard your prayers! Then after church she asked to meet with me as if she received a specific word from God that need to be discussed privately. I met with her in her office. She began to fish for details concerning my marriage. Asking me questions. Then she told me to seek God as though I should not be standing for my spouse. I think she said this out of frustration because she wanted details I refused to give. Inwardly I’m like ma’am you the one said you have a word from the Lord for me! I did not invite you; you invited me to your office. I didn’t say it but my mind definitely was thinking this to myself. I went back to my friend, I was new in my faith but I was extremely clear on what God told me. I was like no disrespect I know you love your pastor but something was off with her, and she was trying to get information from me, and when that didn’t work she tried to discourage me from standing. I then asked him is she mentally ill? Because I see a spirit on her. He was like really nahhh. I never seen any red flags that would point that direction. My friend did confirm that what I experienced was extremely out of character for her, and he was confused by what I told him. Years later he and I talked and she lost her mind shortly. We gotta be careful speaking against covenant and steer clear. She spoke the word of the Lord in one breath and had me meet her in her office speaking against the word of God she released publicly over me. When I say God doesn’t play about covenant. The moment she spoke against my marriage I saw mental illness come over her that had not physically manifested in the natural. I saw her losing her mind before she lost her mind. —Jacie Hutchins

Many prodigal spouses are tempted into divorcing the standing spouse. They believe it will rid them of their guilt. The affair partner becomes excited believing they were finally chosen. Actually they were never chosen; they were only relieving themselves of the sexual sin. Kinda like when a person masturbates and feels disgusted after relieving themselves. The relationship was only a distraction to cover up the guilt and shame. The prodigal spouse will deal with inward torment and thoughts spewing uncontrollably like diarrhea. So they believe the only way to be free from the quote unquote torment is to get rid of the spouse. Only to discover once that is done, and the high is over it was only a sacrifice because they would not obey God. They sacrificed their children, their spouse, and their legacy for the sake of fun living in sin. Once reality kicks in it’s no longer fun when the fantasy is over. This is why obedience is better than sacrifice. The spirit of the strange man or woman always needs a sacrifice, or an offering. Why??? Because it’s actually an altar they are giving into. They will give up their children as instructed, their wife, their home, their finances will be wasted away in this new lifestyle of false peace. I have seen some prodigal spouse go from one job to three to feed this altar. Or they make a substantial salary but it’s never enough. Whilst having nothing to show for it. It’s not peace but it’s a peace offering. It’s chaotic and confusion. They will began to notice they gave up a lot without any reciprocity in this new situation-ship. The situation-ship will soon end when that altar is no longer being fed. Side note: An altar is a meeting place between the natural realm and supernatural realm. If he/she (prodigal spouse) doesn’t renew the contract and return home the altar will speak. You cannot go back home. Did you back with your husband/wife? Oh you will regret it. Your karma is coming. Etc. These statements above are the altar speaking against the marriage. I heard these things in sessions and even in my marriage when my husband first attempt to return home. The spirit of the strange man or woman feeds on pain. Not knowing once the prodigal spouse wise up their eyes will open. Crying out to God what have I done???? Many prodigals have been bewitched, through their rebellion with cause. We know scripture says a curse cannot land without a cause. Some spouse will appear like they are being controlled by a remote control because this altar will direct their next move until they repent and give their life over to Christ. —Jacie Hutchins

A few years ago I was talking to this stander who was fighting for her marriage. She went to God concerning the ongoing problems in her marriage. She was asking God why is this happening? Why would you have me marry a man like this? She then ask, God why would you instruct me to stand for an unfaithful man? He had many affairs. Then God answered her and said, do you remember all the times you were praying and you specifically said, I want a marriage that will draw me closer to you? Has not this marriage drawn you closer to me? The woman was speechless and begin to weep before the Lord with a yes! As she was telling me this I was like whoa! Understand sometimes God use problems in marriage for us to draw close to Him. Marriage has a purpose and an assignment. We may not always understand why we have been through so much in our marriages. Just know that God has a hope and a future for both individually and collectively. Marriage reveals and pulls back the covers. Your spouse cannot fig leaf the sin out. God will expose and have a person stand in righteous for a lost spouse to be saved and set free from temptation. God is in the restoration business. The question is will you stand and give Him your yes no matter what?